Im talking to this wonderful guy and he wants to take it to the next level the only problem is im nervous bc he has a 5 month old with his ex wife. I know she will always come before me and thats okay but sometimes it frustrates me because we dont always get to be together bc he has her. when i pictured myself with a guy this wasn't it and i know that life doesn't work that way. but it sounds weird but sometimes i feel jealous because I know that I will never come first in his life. I feel that i am less important to him than i would be if he didn't have a child. and its always going to be hard bc his ex will always be in his life and a reminder of a failed marriage. How do I make this work I really want to and I feel horrible because I feel so selfish for feeling jealous and sometimes frustrated because we dont have a relationship like most people our age do (hes 21 and im 20). I have nothing against the child dont get me wrong but how do I do this? I dont want to leave him but i do want quality time just him and I and to feel cared for also.
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If you're feeling this way now it will only get worse. When I met him he was married and had 3 children... I still went with it anyway and I embraced the children as well as their mother. Things did eventually go sour (not between him and I) but the ex and I. When I stopped doing favours for her she became malicious and I was no longer useful to her0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE