I've heard this advice thrown a lot on the site. Do you believe in it and why?
Most Helpful Girl
It is a shitty piece of advice given by - not trying to stereotype - men who have been shit on by women, and probably - though I've never seen it because I don't ask women questions on here, really - given by females who are ignorant about relationships and have been shit on as well. It usually includes an immature mindset.
From experience, let me offer you some insight: when you do what most of society does and just settle for someone you can stand to be around, not the person you wish you could spend your life with, or someone that embodies the qualities you want in a life partner, you are selling yourself short and setting yourself up for failure/divorce before you ever start. If it's mediocre when it happens, it will be mediocre when it ends. That's my take. In the past, I've fallen for guys who were below my standards instead of waiting for a man that met my standards - a gentleman, kind, assertive, deep, hard worker, good heart - and got my heart ripped to smithereens and my time wasted.
If you know what you want and you know what you need to truly be happy in a relationship in life, hold out for it. Know it will come. Know that the woman you wish you could meet is still out there. As many times as I've gotten shit on by men, I still keep out hope that a loving man is out there, thinking about me too, and trust me when I say that is a far better fate - the hope that two worlds will eventually collide - than that of being in a relationship/marriage with someone you know could never be your "one."
Don't condemn yourself to that kind of miserable fate. Keep faith alive and find "the one." :)1
Most Helpful Guy
If you are one of these people that have ridiculously high standards then of course you need to lower them but you should not give in to true deal breakers. In fact giving in to true deal breakers is not helping you or the other person because if you get into a relationship with the person thinking oh it will be ok it is more than likely you will only be able to put up with the deal breaker for so long. To an extent yes people need to accept people for who they are but at the same time people also need to respect themselves and not let themselves get used either.0