So, there a guy I sort of became friends with through a mutual friend. We hadn't actually met up until recently, and before we ever did he started commenting on how cute he thinks I am, and that I'm a lot of what he's looking for in a girl... I told him that it takes me time to really get to know someone to even THINK or feel anything romantic. He said "I understand" and I just sorta brushed it off. Then he starts asking if I like him. Mind you, still haven't met and our texts were all like.. Small talk, nothing deep, I STILL feel like I don't know him that well. So he asks to hangout, it was real chill and I had fun. I told him I'm not looking for a relationship that I just want to get to know him and be friends. Every time we've interacted since he's been like "so, do you like me yet?", "you're really cute". Calling me "baby" and "sweetheart." This guy just doesn't get it... What's up?
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My sister has this issue with guys, I want to choke the life out of nearly ever guy that looks at her because they all sound like rapists lol. That being said I'm sure he is just inexperienced and hasn't had much in the way of a woman's interest.
Sit him down and tell him
1. If you want to be my friend, respect my boundaries
2. I'm not looking for a relationship WITH YOU
3. I'm not interested in anything sexual WITH YOU
very important to say "with you" in both unless you actually are interested
If any guy hears this kind of thing it is going to seem grim, but you need someone who is mature enough to deal with your needs. I swear guys who don't have women involved in their life never seem to respect them enough.
To answer your question... Inexperience4