Most Helpful Girl
I think that it is changing. For the most part, guys still generally pay for the first date, but I think it's becoming more and more common to take turns after that or to split cheques.
Personally, my rule for first dates is whoever asks pays. If the guy asked, I will usually offer to help with the cheque or at least feign grabbing for my wallet, just to be polite, but I do expect that he will pay if he's the one who asked me out, and it is a bit of a turn off if he doesn't. However, I have asked guys out before and turned down their offer to pay, by saying "I asked you out, my treat!" or someting along those lines.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Recently, the world, has been shifting into a new form of independence. This independence of women has it's upsides and downsides. Girls still want a traditional gentleman who's willing to pay for the check, but don't be surprised if the selfis... independent girl wants to pay for herself. You still should be respectful and remember the most important thing: she went on a date with you. Yes, she paid for herself, but don't let it emasculate you. Women are stronger today so if she's going out with you, it's more so that she really wants to. Don't give up and just be really relaxed and she'll love it.
note: my ex used that term all the time 'independent' so I teased too much by saying it's another word for selfish. Nothing serious, just for fun ;)0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE