I am currently seeing a guy for the past 5 months. It's been great so far and it's getting a little more serious so we are sharing the "skeletons in our closet," he told me that in the past he paid for sex. I do not know how to feel about that. But what gets to me more is that fact that he wasn't honest with me. He told me that at first is was almost a year an a half years that he didn't have sex, then it was a year, and now I come to find out it was a few months before he met me. I have strong feelings for this guy, he is my first. so I want to make it work. But right now I feel hurt and sad. I know that is his past but I don't know how to talk to him about it. Any advice would be helpfully but please no calling me stupid and all of that.
- Work it out with himVote A
- Leave himVote B
- Start over and take it slowVote C
Most Helpful Guy
If he is lying to you - Dump him0
Most Helpful Girl
He isn't his past.
We all have done things that we aren't proud of.
I know the fact that he paid for sex doesn't sit well with you.
The biggest issue here, seems to be the fact that he kept lying about when he did it.
I think because of his lies you don't know if you can trust him.
If this is bothering you that much... you should talk to him about it.
Ask him, why did he feel the need to lie in the first place?
Afterall, weren't both of you trying to be honest about your past?
This is just a small stone , that you should try to overcome.
If he's been great to you all along... try to move past this.
But let him know, it's not okay that he lies to you.
Perhaps paying for sex was something he wasn't proud of.
That is probably initially he tried to act as if he hadn't had it in a while.1