Okay so I'm totally cool with having friends of the opposite sex. I have two guy friends from college that have always been just friends. They are married now and I know their wives well so I get it. I like a man who can have girl friends that are just friends because it shows an appreciation for women and an ability to get along with them in a healthy manner.
BUT- I also know sometimes guys are friends with girls because they got friend zoned and are still harboring a flame for them even if they maybe don't admit it to themselves. The guy I'm seeing has a really close girl friend that lives pretty close to me, I've never met her.
Usually guys will give me lots of details on their close girl pal and be like, "you should meet her you guys would get along really well". This is not the case with my current guy. We had a fight about a month back because he mentioned watching a movie in the park with a girl. I thought it was more recent than he made it sound and it sounded like a date. But it turns out it was the weekend we met and just with her and some other people. So okay fine.
Then we had plans to go boating with his friends but I got bumped because they ran out of seats. I found out later she was there and took him back to his car at my place that night. This upset me because I still haven't met her and why didn't they just come in for a minute.
He isn't used to being in a relationship so I've had to walk him through some other things like this, basically that when you are in a relationship you have to sometimes put the best interest of the relationship ahead of what you want to do. That you can't go around doing everything just as you did when you were single.
Anyway, I told him the only reason I'm being this way is because I haven't met her and I think it is time. He agreed to set something up but didn't seem thrilled. I'm afraid the reason he doesn't want us to meet is because it will be awkward for him if he secretly has a cursh on her. I know nothing is going on but he is never going to be able to commit to a relationship staying close with someone who doesn't like him back.
Guys am I misreading this?
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Men aren't always the best at picking up on social queues. A lot of times they don't know something is a problem until you tell them. As long as he isn't repeating the same kind of mistakes after you talk about it or disregarding your concerns I'd say cut him some slack.
Relationships are about compromise and can be a learning process. Especially if he has been single for a long time. It can be a big adjustment but he is making those adjustments for your I'd take that as a good sign.
Don't push him too much on meeting the girl but if he hasn't set something up in a week or so maybe give him another nudge. Maybe suggest getting a beer one day after work at a place in your neighborhood than ask if he wants o see if she'd like to meet up. Best2