I've been seeing this guy for two months. A week ago today we had our normal everyday conversation. On Saturday he didn't text me that morning so I text him. After talking for less than an hour he text and said he and his daughter were going to get something to eat and he would text me later. After hours of no text from him... I text him. The conversation was weird and I could tell something was wrong. He made no effort to see me that weekend, I had plans with friends on Saturday evening, and so did he, but I was free the rest of the time. On Monday he finally talked enough to tell me his grandmother was sick and not going to make it. He text on Tuesday and said "I know I haven't been talking much but I couldn't go without telling you happy b-day". On Wednesday I text and told him I felt like he wasn't being honest with me and he text back and told me to stop worrying and that his grandmother passed. I know this is true because his mother shared the obituary on his fb.
We were supposed to go out of town this weekend but the funeral is this weekend so that's a no go.
My question is how long should I give him before I move on? We had such a connection and so much fun together I don't know what went wrong. He won't talk to me on the phone anymore and we had talked everyday. Should I go to his work after he gets off so he will have to talk to me in person? I hate the games and texting! I don't think he is seeing someone else but I could be wrong. What should I do? :(
This isn't every detail but I hope it's enough information.
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If you're available, you should offer to attend the funeral with him. He might decline, but at least you offered and he'll know. As for his behavior, it isn't something to be alarmed about. Guy's also hate texting and though we are texting someone we like, we still hate texting. Make sure you give him some space, because I feel like, from what you've said, you contact him quite often. Now it's his turn to take the reigns. Don't text him for at least a week giving him plenty of time to message you first. It's important for a person to mourn for someone they love, but there is a limit on how destroyed a person is. They address bereavement as a three day period to mourn those family members who have passed on. I'm suggesting you give him a week from after the funeral to give him plenty of space so he doesn't feel pressure from you always messaging you. If he cares, he'll message you and make plans to meet up. Keep in mind, this is a tough time for him, but that doesn't mean your relationship should take the fall because he is only focused on one person. I hope I'm not sounding completely heartless here. I once flew to Japan for my ex-girlfriend's grandmother who had passed on. People need support and if he's pushing you away, this isn't a good thing.0