So I never expected him to be insecure over me but he is quite a jealous type. He told me before we started dating that he is the most jealous guy in the world. After we started dating, he would always kiss me or get cuddly whenever he saw boys around me. He told me he did this intentionally so that the guys would get the message that I am his girlfriend. (He said this "I always kiss you in front of them because I want the guys to know that you are mine").. And he also keeps me away from men in general.
Once he even got into a fight with a guy friend of mine because my friend held my hand (it was Friendship Day) which my boyfriend didn't like and he clearly stated that nobody can touch me except him.
He doesn't fight with me over his jealousy issues but gets upset or gets all moody and I have to do something special to cheer him up.
He's younger than me. He is 22 and I am 24.
Is this normal or not?
Most Helpful Guy
"I always kiss you in front of them because I want the guys to know that you are mine"
firstly, you belong to no one except yourself.
Secondly, no its not normal to be that possessive and nothing good will come of it. Men who are that possessive tend to become violent and aggressive at the drop of a hat, blaming it on their jealousy and one day, you may be the focus of that aggression. He will start to think you are making him jealous on purpose which will lead to accusations of cheating etc etc.
A very close friend of the family was with a man like this, and we all told her to leave him. a year or 2 down the line, and she wasn't allowed out of the house because he thought she was cheating on him. he would beat her if she looked at him in the wrong way, if she didn't cook his dinner on time etc etc.
Now im not saying your fella will end up like this, but the fact he is already saying you "belong" to him is really worrying. it indicates he sees you as an item rather than a person.
Most Helpful Girl
In my own personal opinion I do not like jealous guys. I had a bad experience with one. He seems cute about it but try to always let him know how you feel about him and keep reminding him, to try to ease his jealousy. Jealousy is pure insecurity, that is all it is. Some can be psycho lol but some just need a little extra reassurance.