If you saw a very ugly girl all dressed up (not slutty) in a bar sitting at a table having a laugh with a couple of friends, would you think she was desperate?
What signals to you that a girl is single and desperate, before you have even spoken to her? Or what makes you avoid a girl because you think she is desperate (except for being drunk and throwing herself over everyone lol) ? Thanks =]
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Hmm, how about stipulating a definition for desperate and why it's supposedly bad?
... and desperate for what?
Throwing yourself at people doesn't necessarily mean desperate for affection/sex, it could mean they think they're entitled enough to get from whomever they want. Or it could mean they got rejected several times and you just think they're desperate because they've talked to so many people. It might as well be a made up thing because I just don't see people as being desperate before or after speaking to them. I can imagine what the problem is though, I think it's bad if they are either way too clingy for your affection/sex or couldn't care less where the affection/sex comes from. That's the problem with it, they will get want they want from anyone and everyone which makes their affection/sex impersonal.
I see no reason why the girl you described would be desperate. I think it's mostly a girl thing to make a massive deal about it and they project their view about people being desperate. In my experience girls never look desperate to a guy when they think they do, it's just a completely made up characteristic about themselves. But that makes them insecure and annoying. For example, not texting first or not approaching guys because you're afraid you'll look desperate. No guy thinks you're desperate but being so afraid of it made you look dumb.
Basically there are no signals for me, if it's even a problem. I've never noticed and thought of a girl as desperate, before or after having spoken to her and this whole idea of desperation girls are always on about doesn't really click with me.0