I'm dating a seemingly rather closed off guy. I can't seem to get him to open up much to me. How long did it take for your guy/or you to open up to talking more about yourself?
Most Helpful Guy
I always thought that none cared about my thoughts, and honestly, why would they? Why would someone want to hear about my problems and my feelings? I felt like it was better just to keep it all to myself, and not bother anyone else with it. I was not used to have anyone to talk to about that, as guys are not "supposed" to talk about that stuff with each other.
I think it took me about a month or so after getting toghether with her to open up in this way, as that was when I realized that she actually cared about my thoughts. It was nice to have someone that was genuinely interested in hearing what you had to say, and not being afraid of being called a pussy for having feelings and expressing them. I miss that...0
Most Helpful Girl
I had a similar problem, my guy is also a childhood friend but we met after a long time (he's my crush) at start we was the coldest closed off person that I've ever met. The way to open a guy like him would be to be open yourself at first, put all off your trust in him if your confident in staying with him. Once you become quite open with him, like share your feelings (be honest) ask him what he likes etc.. Also sex deepens trust and try adding a little range of ideas such as cosplay, if that still fails. Ask him what really bothers him and how you could deepen the trust you have for each other, personally I went to a really scary ghost house, what was funny was that my guy was scared and held my hand or he had motion sickness but tried keeping cool in front of me, that was cute but he opened up a little bit more after that expierence. I'll be happy to answer your questions and goodluck 😊0
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