I'm dating a seemingly rather closed off guy. I can't seem to get him to open up much to me. How long did it take for your guy/or you to open up to talking more about yourself?
Most Helpful Guy
I've only been with my girlfriend two months now but I have been pretty open and honest with her from the beginning. Well we didn't really share much at first but I ended up bonding with her mum quite a bit and opening up slightly about my past and insecurities, in some detail, not a lot though.
But when my girlfriend seemed quiet a little at the beginning and I was blaming myself, she was assuring me everything was fine and not to worry, so I just told her a little of my past and how I am a little insecure. I thought that would put her off me because girls like guys who are secure, but she's stuck by me so far. I only really went into massive details last week with her about what my ex did and how she hurt me and why sometimes I get paranoid about things. She seemed understanding and assured me everything is honestly fine.
Although she's slow at opening up really but I can see things slowly coming out so I guess as long as I am open with her about myself and leave her to tell me in her own time, then she will eventually :P0
Most Helpful Girl
I had a similar problem, my guy is also a childhood friend but we met after a long time (he's my crush) at start we was the coldest closed off person that I've ever met. The way to open a guy like him would be to be open yourself at first, put all off your trust in him if your confident in staying with him. Once you become quite open with him, like share your feelings (be honest) ask him what he likes etc.. Also sex deepens trust and try adding a little range of ideas such as cosplay, if that still fails. Ask him what really bothers him and how you could deepen the trust you have for each other, personally I went to a really scary ghost house, what was funny was that my guy was scared and held my hand or he had motion sickness but tried keeping cool in front of me, that was cute but he opened up a little bit more after that expierence. I'll be happy to answer your questions and goodluck 😊0
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