Is cuddling considered cheating?

Okay so I'm a 16 year old girl (nearly 17) and I have a lot of guy friends and we're all pretty close. So I'm a really cuddly person, I like hugging everyone and yesterday I was hanging with one of my guy friends and we were cuddling on the couch watching netflix. He had his arm around me and my head was on his chest. For me this was pretty normal and neither of us are interested in each other (that way). This morning I was telling my boyfriend about my day yesterday and I told him about this and he freaked out and isn't talking to me anymore. I have no idea what I've done wrong and what to do about it? Help?

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  • you have to be on the same page and have a really understanding relationship when it comes to things of that nature. some may say it's cool, others not so much. in your case you guys don't have that going on and he's right to be upset.
    if you know you're into that stuff but know it's not a big deal, ya gotta warn a guy first


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What Guys Said 14

  • yeah I would be like "what the fuck" too.

    doesn't matter if you two are "just friends", I see that as an intimate moment.

  • It's not cheating. Put cuddle is for some is kind of intimate due to the closeness of it. I think your fine doing that when your single and maybe with a guy more loose, but obviously he doesn't like it which isn't a bad thing either. I don't think I would like my wife cuddling with a guy friend even if she known him for years and me the same.

  • Not cheating in the strictest sense, but yeah your boyfriend getting agitated is quite understandable

  • Cheating is typically sexual, but this much physical affection is just weird. Not cheating though.

  • Only the extremely close minded see that as cheating. Me and my girlfriend don't care about small things like that.

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What Girls Said 13

  • Yes basically it's cheating. Usually when people cuddle it's showing a sign of affection for one another.

    But the fact that you openly admitted it to your boyfriend, you honest didn't think nothing of it, and you SBD your friend don't have feelings for each other all you can do isbeg your boyfriend for forgiveness and explain that you didn't know and that nothing serious happened. That you didn't mean to hurt him and that you care about him deeply.

  • That is absolutely crossing the line and no... You don't cuddle with guy friends. That does not sound like a normal male female friendship that is platonic.

  • Yes, I would consider it cheating. Cuddling is intimate. Intimacy happens with people with whom you have an intimate bond. AKA your boyfriend.

    I'd be PISSED if I were in your boyfriend's shoes.

  • I find it extremely disrespectful towards your boyfriend. If he happened to have no problem with it? it's your relationship, your decision but obviously he has a problem with it and I find his reaction totally normal.
    Cuddling is something you do as a couple, especially that kind of cuddling.

    • and even if he didn't, it would be and indication of your value to him... or lack thereof.

  • Simply because even though you two aren't interested in each other it's crossing the line in respect of your relationship. x

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