When browsing online dating profiles and talking to people, it seems almost mandatory that everyone loves "enjoying a glass of wine", to the point that when I dinner date I always presume they would want to drink, and they always say yes. Personally I'm not a big fan of alcohol; I drink on work occasions or other social gatherings where it is expected, but in general I just find it really annoying since it kind of just handicaps my senses. Sure you get a bit more social, but only a tidbit and the after effects just aren't worth it to me (I have no problems being social without drinking).
However, not enjoying alcohol seems like a taboo in western culture, so much that even mentioning you don't like it is almost a social stigma. I would love to date without drinking because anything edible, sensual or sexual is just dulled down to nothing for me - I want to feel, taste and hear without that veil of wine.
To be clear, I'm not talking about a lot of alcohol, but even one glass is enough to noticeably dull my sense of taste and physical sensation, and that just sucks (need quite a lot more before my head start spinning, though ;)). Am I alone here? If you were to date someone and they didn't want to drink, how would you react?
- Yes: When we go for dinner we should both be drinkingVote A
- Yes: When we go for dinner I want to drink but I don't mind the other abstainingVote B
- No: When we go for dinner no-one should drink alcoholVote C
- No: When we go for dinner I don't drink, but I don't care if the other one doesVote D
Most Helpful Girl
No, it's not compulsory at all. Even if the other person is drinking, that doesn't mean you have to. No one is obligated to drink alcohol if they don't want to. Personally, I don't drink, it's just not my thing but I don't care if other people do and I wouldn't care if a dinner date drank alcohol, I simply would not drink myself. It's okay if you don't want to drink when you go on dates.0
Most Helpful Guy
I would not drink at all. I would prefer she didn't drink. But if she drinks just one glass it's OK. But if she did, I'd be watching in the future to make sure it wasn't too much of a habit.
If I'm just getting to know someone I want to have my head on straight. In a way I think it's just polite to not drink. I think it's showing more respect for the other person that way. It's subtle, but drinking seems almost like it sends a message that you don't care enough about the person as you could.0