I am going on a date with a guy on Thursday, but he's Indian and has said his parents are extremely strict when it comes to girls and dating. He's said that if we ended up together and dating, he would have to keep it from his parents, at least right away. He is 20, as I am as well and is in school for nursing. I am white, so would it be difficult if we actually dated?
Most Helpful Guy
This is less of a culture issue and more of a parent approval issue. Sure the culture is part of he reason, but it doesn't sound like cultural differences are and issue for the two of you liking eachother. You shouldn't let his parent's views scare you away from giving it a try. If you give it a go and it doesn't work out, you might have some heartbreak depending on how serious it got, but if you never try and it would have worked out, then you missed out on finding a guy that was right for you.
It's not quite the same situation but what my fiancé and I are in is close. We're gay and I've been out for years but he only recently told his parents he was gay and they were very against the idea of him dating a guy. I fell in love with him and then had to meet his parents. I was so nervous, but even if they disapproved, I love him and we'd be together anyway. Luckily things went pretty well and we get along even if we aren't on the best of terms. I can't imagine how my life would be if I'd let fear of his parents keep me from going on that first date with him.0
Most Helpful Girl
I see Already here, dear, the Path of Problems with Everything he has warned you about. Three Strikes and it is a Not so a Done Deal but a 'Done' One that hasn't even started yet with you Both... Going on a date with a guy on Thursday.
Bear all of this in mind with this 'Really sweet and nice guy,' He sounds like a great catch but may not be your Catch of the day because of all these certain Strict Obstacles in your way.
For now, be friends and just enjoy hanging out. He has laid down the rules and Rule of thumb of what it is like being 'White if things do work out.'
However, not being 'Brown,' tell him where he stands and you have a few 'Rules' of your own, and it Consists of being Up close and personal and that it is fine with family but he has to understand that you would be Someone who cannot be swept Under the carpet like an ant, and even if you were to marry, he is Marrying You and not Them.
I went through all of this with having a husband out in Egypt and a being in a Muslim family. They never had a problem with me being a Christan but they have their own Rules in their own culture and religion, and you have a lot to Live up to Stay in the family and to Show Face.
LDR as well takes two special people to Have and to Uphold as well. If you cannot Hold down Anything that you have mentioned here, then don't start something with this sore subject that you cannot finish. It may end up in a heartbreak or mass destruction for everyone.
Good luck. xx1