It would really help me deal with this shit if the fairness of it could be explained to me. Many women say they like it and try to make it out to be not that bad, but they often try to justify this cultral expectation by saying some junk like "we do other things."
When it comes to "it shows respect" or "it shows that he cares" or whatever; where's the mututal respect? Why does it only go one way? Why is it totally cool for me to NEVER know that postive experience of having someone show they care for me like that and yet also acceptable for women to EXPECT to have that positive experience thoughout their lives? Doesn't that seem bleak?
So, I'm asking what things do you girls do? What do you do that justifies me paying for you on our first date?
Most Helpful Girl
Girls want a clear perspective of how a guy is. Wether he is nice and well respected, girls want to get to know him at a personal level. For instance, if a girl goes out on a date, she wants to know the guy for truly who he is. On the other hand, if a guy doesn't want to pay on the first date, the girl and guy should pay equally. Meaning, if both of them go out and eat at a food place or see a movie, both of them should pay for their own amount of money. Some girls don't even like it when a guy pays for them, they prefer to pay for themselve. For attention and kindness od a first date, girls only want to get know the guy as a person not jump into the personal level of affection. A first date can be only getting to know the person and how they are. There doesn't have to be so much on the first date, just take baby steps to get to know the person well over time.
Most Helpful Guy
This is all messed up. When I offer to date a girl it's a gift, you don't expect anything for a gift. The whole thought of expecting anything from a girl for taking her out except for her to be polite and maybe entertaining is repulsive. You need to get your head on straight.
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