Ok so the guy I'm seeing is super innocent and respectful he has only ever had one other girl in his life other than me. He's only kissed two girls me and his ex as well as he has only slept with his ex. I'm a virgin. However, i had a rough patch in my life where I just wanted so badly to be loved and cares for and I didn't value myself so I fooled around with a lot of guys that I regret. I never had vaginal sex with them but I came really close. I've gone down on over 16 guys and kissed way more than that. I realized before I met the guy I'm seeing that it wasn't ok and I worked through my self-esteem issues. It's just now that I have a man in my life that I really like and respect and is so old fashioned and gentlemanly I don't want him to hate me. We've talked a bit and he knows I had a rough patch and he doesn't seem to mind but he doesn't know my number and I really don't want to be known as that girl however I want him to respect me and know that I'm not that girl anymore I've taken it so slowly with him and I intend on continuing moving slowly but I just don't know what to do about my past. How do I tell him and be honest with out making him hate me?
Most Helpful Guy
"I realized before I met the guy I'm seeing that it wasn't ok"
Why is it not OK? Did you enjoy it at the time? Don't let people convince you that you should feel ashamed of yourself. If you liked doing it, then what's so wrong about it? If you feel bad about it now, then ok, but why is it so? What made you feel bad?
All you can control is if you tell him or not. The way he reacts, you cannot control. If he hates you for what you have done, then do you really think it would be a good thing to be with him? He obviously won't accept who you are. If you tell him and doesn't care, then he loves you for who you are. Don't try to hide or act your way out of this because it's your chance to see if he's for you before you go too far with him.0
Most Helpful Girl
You have to be honest!0