I was dating guy number 1 (he's 28 years old) for nine months without a "proper" commitment (never an official boyfriend) which was my choice. He fell for me very hard, yet I didn't want to commit as I didn't think he was my type and I guess I took him for granted and couldn't recognise my feeling for him. I ended it four months ago.
A month later I met guy number 2 (he's 25 years old) and was blown away that a guy as awesome as him was into me. We have lots of fun together and never fight and my friends love him. We have no commitment, we are "seeing" each other (yes, we are sleeping together). He's very affectionate and just an all round great guy.
However, about 6 weeks ago I started to miss guy number 1 terribly. I tried to ignore my feelings as I was excited to be seeing guy number 2 who just seemed like a better fit. I also found out guy number 1 had a new girlfriend so didn't want to upset their new relationship. However, guy number 1 called me 3 weeks ago and told me he still has strong feelings and wants me back. I confessed that I was feeling miserable without him and he came over. I told him about guy number 2 and that I didn't want to hurt his girlfriend. However, as pathetic as I sound, I just couldn't resist his advances and we had (amazing) sex. The sex with guy 1 is mind-blowing.
I have strong negative emotions about what I have done and what I should do next. Anxiety, guilt, and misery over my extreme indecision about letting either of them go, and my tremendous guilt about guy 1's girlfriend and feeling like I have "cheated" on guy 2. My friends say I have done nothing wrong but I feel like I've been a whore.
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I think you weren't u to guy number 1 enough. You only missed him when he found someone that appreciated him. 9 months is a long time to not feel anything. Anyone I date I feel something early and it just gets stronger. I think 9 months feeling nothing stringing him on isn't fair to him and I get how it happend though but that whole time you felt nothing. The sex was great and that wasn't enough to get you to like him, guy 2 you feel something right away you get along well. He sounds better. But seriously if guy number 1 interests you than neither are right for you. When I am into someone I stop thinking of anyone else. Walk away have time for clarity and see what it feels like with neither of them. You aren't a whore. I get it guys don't commit. But when one is the right one you only want him. My money in on guy 3 as in neither of these guys. There is someone waiting for you to meet him stop wasting your time with 1&2. There is someone ghat will make u forget they exist.