I met this guy online and he unexpectedly asked me out to eat and i said yes and he was on his way from there. I was sketchy at first because I never been dating online before and he kinda looked like a model. But when he pulled up he was very real and looked even better in person lol. As we were on the date he started talking about how his dad is a dentist and successful businessman and how he was in his last year of med school. He's traveled all over the US and has even lived in many places in South America. He got a really expensive hotel after the date & we had sex, even though thats way too soon I just felt why not. I feel almost intimidated by him I come from a totally different background. I do have a job but i dont make nearly as much as him. He had at least 5,000 cash on him. We got along well and id never fake my feelings just because he's rich. But im unsure if we would even last since were so different
Most Helpful Guy
hmm, I wouldn't have had sex with someone in that situation, essentially, from a position of weakness and insecurity. Being dazzled by socio-economic status, is... very biological. I'm guessing, that his 'status', made you feel insecure about your status, that he may mention it or make you feel lesser about it, and that fear and desire to impress was driving much of your behaviour. As I say, it puts you in a situation of passivity, waiting for someone's validation, so it puts you in a bad position in any relationship. At his whim, if I wasn't clear.
Also, as someone else said, he's not really rich, his dad is. We can almost certainly surmise he wouldn't have gotten into that position if not for his father.
What to do, depends on you really. It sounds like you're trying to impress him, and you're still working within the 'socio-economic' status is actually meaningful, and determines a person's worth, paradigm. I can understand the bedazzlement, and perhaps it will take you the experience of him, and what it might teach you, to see it ain't all that. After all, what person ever learnt a lesson vicariously? :D
"When you refuse to play the game, you are out of it.”
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Most Helpful Girl
It sounds with this 'I met this guy online' This Time around here, dear, you Lucked Out and found him More in Store than you even bargained for and that you both share this great chemistry.
From here on after, go slow with Joe. Yes, I feel too it was Jack Rabbit between the sheets with someone you didn't know all that well, and I have to also think that something terribly could have gone wrong. But there is always a Next time.
However, no time like the present to Begin a fresh Beguine and take your time and nurse and nurture something that may be to your advantage.
Opposites do attract and if you play your cards right the next time, 'Were so different' will make No... Difference.
Good luck. xx0