She's upset because... she wants to tell me about her past... I know when I met her... she had baggage. Well.. more like after I got to know her, from us going out drinking and fighting (alcohol and emotions dont mix). But we are stable now and she wants to tell me about her past... I know she's... well a lot more sexually experience and she's told me about her past. When we were dating, such as "I used to not care about myself and well... guess I slept around." I didn't judge her and she is happy now with me. I guess I fell in love with her before finding all this out because we became friends... then friends with benefits... then dating now we are a couple. But she wants to open up more... about the past that she feels ashamed of. I keep telling her "nothing good can come out of telling me." I don't want to lay in bed next to her... thinking about the things she has done... I don't care. But she really wants me to know as if to ease some burden off of her. Guess, I still remember that smile when she felt sad about her past and I just held her face and told her "I don't care" kissed her and she had a big smile on her face... I don't want to ruin it by finding... a lot more out. I know its my insecurities... but I... really don't want to know.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I am a firm believer in the idea that nothing can turn someone into something. Meaning, no heartbreak or terrible experience caused your girlfriend to be a promiscuous woman she was always one on the inside. I don't believe things turn you into anything it just takes the right situation to bring it out of you. Right now she has probably put a lot of faith and trust in you when you told her you didn't care and honestly if you leave her it might break her heart and she'll do those things again and blame it on the break up when in actuality that's the person she is. If she wants to share her past with you then maybe you should listen but if that's not something you can get over maybe you don't care about her the way you'd like to. It seems like this will be a big problem for you guys and may cause a breakup. If you want a girl with less sexual history then you have every right to find one. Maybe the two of you aren't right for each other.1
Most Helpful Guy
Tell her this "I can be your boyfriend, or I can be your therapist... but I can't be both."
Accepting her does not require you to have detailed knowledge of every element of her past. If she persists in telling you everything, she risks adding the loss of your relationship to the baggage she carries.
She should nor have to be alone in fighting her demons BUT the person who hears her story CAN'T be you.4
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