Most Helpful Guy
Men and women are DIFFERENT!
Men can (and often do) have sex with women they find physically attractive, but have no feelings for, and having sex, even a lot of sex over a long period of time, WILL *NOT* CAUSE HIM TO DEVELOP FEELINGS FOR HER. Generally, men fall in love instantly (the first time the spend some significant amount of time with someone) or not at all, and having sex doesn't change that (for MOST men - there is always the rare exception).
Women work differently - having sex causes most women to get emotionally attached, even if they didn't want to, or didn't have feelings in the beginning.
The thing is: if you start a friends with benefits relationship, you are agreeing NOT TO HAVE ANY EXPECTATIONS OF FEELINGS IN THE FUTURE, regardless of how much time and sex you have together! That is the very definition of friends with benefits. So, in your case, YOU are the one who violated your original agreement, not him.
The lesson here is: most women shouldn't have, or even attempt, friends with benefits relationships, because they honestly lack the ability to have them and keep to their agreement. And it isn't fair to be upset at the guy, who kept his end of the bargain, just because you now want to change the rules.
Your issue is that, despite your agreement, you ASSUMED that men work just like women, and would EVENTUALLY fall in love. Well, now you know that this assumption is false, and you have only yourself to blame. In the future, make smarter decisions, and realize that men are DIFFERENT and have very different perspectives on sex, love, and relationships than women do.
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Most Helpful Girl
I had a friends with benefits while I was single for two years too. We were just very sexually compatible and physically and sexually attracted. It was an open friends with benefits, nothing exclusive at all. Neither one of us ever had feelings for each other, believe it or not. We were friends with benefits and close friends. Now I'm in a relationship with someone else, and he's still my closest friend but he doesn't do anything inappropriate (he's very respectful-- and was a good fuck buddy, and is a good friend). My current boyfriend even knows him, sometimes we're hanging out in the same friend group, and likes him, lol. Very clean relationships. I hate drama, I'm very happy I don't get any shit.