I'm okay with waiting... because I guess.. it be wrong to pressure a woman for sex (i'm not one of those guys). We really just date and make out. But, I... don't want to be some sort of experiment. I don't get it... I mean... not to sound mean but I like her obviously care about her... But its a weird catch 22. "I used to sleep around a lot and have sex very easily... but not with you."(whats my version of what she said) Makes me feel... like I'm not sexually attractive as those other guys... I don't know. Says she really wants to but she wants to wait...
I don't really know how to go about it. I like her. I'm not really sure if its even an emotional red flag or anything. She has free range of her own body, I don't pressure her. I'm not really sure what she wants, like some sort of show of commitment? I'm not even upset or angry its just awkward when I think about it.
In my defense i'm not a push over, not like she's hanging sex like a carrot over my head. Part of me wants to move on because... well seems like... she's trying to see if i'm "the one." After she's... slept around a lot. The other part of me says i'm better than to think that low of her. We've been spending quite some time together, beyond... reason to where it has me wondering... what's her end game?
Feels... like if i just cut and run i'd be confirming her doubts. But if I stay did... I just get the short end of the stick?
Most Helpful Girl
She obviously felt devalued by her past sexual experiences and wants to make sure that what you have isn't purely physical. She's probably in a really vulnerable place and she needs you to assure her that you appreciate her and are with her for more than just sex.
If she wants to go slow that's her right. So what if she's had a lot of sexual partners in the past, that's her past and you don't really have the right to hold that against her. I understand that you're not pressuring her but if she were a virgin would you feel like you were getting the short end of the stick for waiting?
Most Helpful Guy
Well she might have genuine intentions and really want you for you and not for sex so she's trying to not make the same mistakes.
That or it's a typical, "Fuck the alphas, buck the betas" type of thing where she sees you as someone to ''stay together'' with for a little bit longer than one night. Maybe have you pay for a date or two.