I like him & he likes me (apparently).
He's newly single & I want him to explore his single-dom & understand why he's doing it.
I still want to get with him but I don't want him to lose interest or take advantage of the fact that he knows i'll still be around.
How do I stop looking so weak?
Most Helpful Guy
If you're seeing him, but let him date around, and he's just out of a relationship, it will be hard/impossible for him to consider you seriously. I'm sure he likes you and enjoys time with you, but not for long-term relationship.
First, newly single means rebound. It's a tool to get over your ex. Then he's dating other people, never should you be understanding.
When someone comes on to you during a rebound, you have to put your foot down, tell them to take a while to do their thing, and if a few months down the road they still want you and are serious, then come back and try again.
I've never heard of a situation like yours that turned into a serious monogamous relationship.
I like "kaylaS91" 's advice. You could tell him that you've started to have feelings for him, and don't want to continue being with him unless he's also in that mindset. Then walk away. Maybe he'll come back, maybe he won't. But I can guarantee if you keep doing what you are you'll never be in the long term category in his mind.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
If you do things to act like you're not that interested because you're scared of looking 'too available', you're at much more risk of him thinking you're legit not into him than anything else.
Why don't you just tell him you're interested, or flirt with him pretty openly? If you act like you know what you want and that happens to be him, he'll be more turned on and impressed with your confidence than anything else.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE