We aren't exclusive but I still want him, I just feel like I come across as way to avaliable & easy.
I like him & he likes me (apparently).
He's newly single & I want him to explore his single-dom & understand why he's doing it.
I still want to get with him but I don't want him to lose interest or take advantage of the fact that he knows i'll still be around.
How do I stop looking so weak?
Most Helpful Guy
This has never happened and it's the biggest BS myth I've ever seen. Accessibility never turns off a man. Being a pushover maybe, or clingy/controlling, or unexciting/unattractive maybe but not being too accessible. Men only like a challenge from boring women. If you've gotta keep a man chasing/excited and interested what your really saying is "I'm not interesting enough on my own for him to like me" which isn't true. It's also counterproductive if you've got to entice a man into remaining interested then that means he's not really interested in you he's just interested in the challenge. Who wants a relationship built like a video game. If you don't want to get played don't present yourself as a game. And what I mean by all that is just continue being you and continue being there. Show him you like him over time and many different ways if he likes you back he'll eventually come around. You don't need to do anything special. Just be you and enjoy your life and show him affection whenever you want in whatever way you want. I'm not gauranteeing it'll work but if it doesn't work nothing else will.0
Most Helpful Girl
Limit your time with him. If you talk to him on the phone via text, whatsapp, fb etc cut that from everyday to every 2 or 3 days. When he calls dont be so quick to answer the phone and dont spend every waking moment you have with him because he is gonna view you as easy or available and think well "I dont have to work hard for her she's just there" Hope I dont come off as harsh but thats how it is around my parts. On the other hand, he is newly single and he would have to explore and you will have to give him a time or space to do that. You dont wanna just attack it at full force all at once because breaking up if hard and he needs to recover physically as well as emotionally but at the same time you can drop subtle hints about your interest into him once in a while. Hope I helped0