Yet, whenever a nice guy sticks up for himself and refuses to be a doormat they call him an asshole? Also, as a note for the downvote brigade, I obviously don't mean all women.
Most Helpful Girl
Because, sticking up for yourself entails: knowing how to use tact, having a set of standards others know to respect, diplomacy, and putting things in proper perspective. Being a doormat who "sticks up for themselves" usually means: bottling your anger until you explode, ranting about the ones who've wronged you, demanding a certain action for a favor you did for someone, and not having enough social awareness to know when to leave someone alone. This is usually done under the guise of you just being "nice" to a girl or "friendly". That's just an a**hole who doesn't have very good boundaries or confidence. If you go through life confident, perceptive, unassuming, and self-aware, you get respect from people. If you do these things already then it's probably the other person angered by you not giving into their demands lol.0
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"Yet, whenever a nice guy sticks up for himself and refuses to be a doormat they call him an asshole? "
This is why it pays not to give a shit what women (or anybody) thinks.
You are in the wrong no matter what you do. :D3