Ok so I was always within a healthy weight range, so none of this don't blame them for being attracted to healthy bodies. I was also always ahtletic, I just also like eating and I was a little chubby. Like the upper end of healthy
No I've been traveling for 4 months over the summer and dropped about 25lbs. Not sure how it happend, just more walking I guess. I didn't try to lose weight anyways.
Now I'm back in college and I've noticed a lot more guys seem to be interested in romantically. It's not like they were mean to me before we were just friends and they never signaled that they wanted to be more. But now, I get that feeling very strongly
And I'm a bit torn. On the one hand there are some I kinda like but then on the other hand, do they like me for me? I get that looks is part of dating, but you know they weren't interested when I looked differently and I feel that's kinda shallow.
Actually I'm not so sure what to feel. It feels good to get more attention obviously but then it makes me angry as well, because it's so dependent on being thin.
What I'm wondering is, would any of them boyfriend material?
Most Helpful Guy
Don't date them. I used to be fat, and I was always the lovable fat guy who the girls would tease and almost try to humiliate (even though they thought they were being cute) by flirting even though none of them would ever consider dating me. It crushed my soul to know that these girls, some of whom I really liked, saw me some kind of clown who it was okay to toy with.
When I finally got lean, I didn't look at it as some sort of revenge, I just couldn't bring myself to have any feelings for girls who had humiliated me in the past. Even though they didn't necessarily intend anything negative, they had hurt me, so I wrote them off and moved on to new girls who'd never known me as a fat guy.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Girl
If you are interested in the guy, I say give it a shot. I can certainly understand why you would have mixed feelings about this. It's hard when someone didn't care about your before is now giving you loads of attention. I find that when I wear a dress or a skirt, I get loads more attention then when I am wearing capris. It's just the way things go I guess.
However, get to know the guys. Really get to know them, and try to be in tune with how YOU feel about them. If you find something he says not appealing to you, well then on to the next one. If you don't feel compatible with the guy, same thing. You really truly don't know if you are going to like someone until you get to know them.
Who knows, these guys could have been in relationships or some of them could have been sort of seeing someone so you weren't on their radar. Now over the summer things changed and now they are interested.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE