Most Helpful Girl
I can understand your frustration. It's true that many guys tend to feel afraid of rejection more than women. That's because men feel like it's their job to pursue women. When they get rejected, they feel like they failed at their duty as a man. It's never a duty to approach a person, man or woman. It's about wanting to.
Have you ever noticed girls look at you? You never mentioned that part in your question. Maybe girls want you to talk to them. But, they may feel like you don't want to talk to them, too. I agree that it's not fair for a man to be put down the way women aren't when it comes to rejection. Especially if the man and the woman are both genuine in their approaches.
Women are seen as the more emotional and sensitive sex. Which is why men are put down much more harshly than women. I think it is very sad.
I'm sorry you've been going through this. If you feel like your self esteem is low, start slowly. Everyone gets rejected at some point in their lives. That's just the way life is. But, that's how people learn. You learn about how people are as people.
Approach girls who also look like the shy type first. Try to look more approachable and less shy. If you sit in a corner, people will think you don't want to be approach. Girls don't think they have to approach guys. Which is probably why they don't approach you. Maybe girls do wait for you to approach them. Sitting by yourself will not help the situation at all.
If you're not ready to converse with anyone at first, Grab a drink or sit near a crowd around you. Someone should be bound to talk to you.
There will be times when you would probably HAVE to make the first move, though. If it doesn't work with everyone, it will work with some people. Thats how I broke the ice being a shy girl myself.
Most Helpful Guy
it's stupid. A lot of girls refuse to ask a guy out even if she likes him and thinks he's attractive. She'll do things to get his attention and try to get him to ask her out but refuses to ask him out.