It's like I'm not allowed to date at all, not by my family, but by society. I'm being treated like I should be making dolls have sex or something. I'll have to admit I don't feel ready to seriously date, but some 14yos may. The only thing I'm against is being ageist and saying we lack things like intellingence, maturity, self control etc. that all adults supposedly have.
There are so many misconceptions about that, like when an adult knows the consequences of driving fast, the teenager brain thinks "Wow, this is gonna be fun!" That's a stereotype and not true. Another is that when a 14yo dates someone older, especially a guy, they're using the 14yo and he/she is too young (i. e. stupid) to know this. Also not true.
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Personally I don't think 14 year olds should date. Its a huge waste of time at that age. but to answer your question, 14, that's it. No one younger. No one older. There's too much growth going on around that time to be dating anyone out of your immediate age group.
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i'm sorry but i disagree- i know not all 14 year olds are lacking in intelligence, but it is a proven fact that humans minds aren't fully developed until they hit 25 or something like that- the decision making/ consequence connections aren't all quite there yet. i'm not saying it's true of all teenagers but most ( look around and i'm sure you'll be able to point out a few). and it's true there are plenty of adults that are lacking. you seem to have yourself pretty sorted out, which is good, you know your comfort level and you have priorities, however most teenagers don't seem to. so i think under 17 is too young to start dating, as you mentioned most aren't ready. it's in part maturity, but also responsibility- relating to someone else and being mindful of they're feelings and needs. while trying to stay on top of your own stuff. not to mention for most kids the next several years of your life are going to hold a great deal of change, where you stat to figure out what you like and want to do with your life and who you are as a person. and throw school, family, a job, chores, extra curriculars, or other activities and i you can have a lot of stress, not to mention having another person that you are trying to relate to. i just don't really think it's the right time to be focusing on that in your life. i also don't like the idea of not seriously dating- because what's the point if you don't think things will work out you know? it's just leads to eventual heart break.