A close friend kissed me a few weeks back and having discussed it since we both agreed it was a good thing.
However, despite suggesting that he's interested in being more than friends, nothing has happened. I've made suggestions for things we can do but he is being elusive. Thought it was because he is busy with work but I don't think he wants to make time for me and friends who have seen his texts agree.
Now, I'm not suggesting that I think one kiss means that we should be in a serious relationship straight off but this is not the first time the guy has proven elusive - catch up drinks etc.
So I'm thinking about drafting an email showing my hand and then leave it up to him. I might lose a friend but surely its better than me slowing going cuckoo.
- UltimatumVote A
- Wait a little longerVote B
This guy knows how I feel because I've told him exactly how I feel. I've also invited around to mine, offered to meet him for a drink after work for weeks now. He response is that we will work something out. And that's my issue... When are we going to work something out? Are pigs gonna fly first?
Most Helpful Guy
Darling, we men sometimes are like never aging toddlers; you have to work hard to get truth out of us. In my opinion, you should tell him to make or move or loose you forever.1
Most Helpful Girl
Time for the ultimatum. You've made it clear already, the ball is in his court. Now you've got to tell him to decide. Is he in or is he out? Judging by his behavior I'm assuming he's out, otherwise you would have started dating by now since things like this tend to escalate after the turning point (kissing). But nothing has changed so that might just be him showing how reluctant he is.
Elusive people tend to not make good friends or partners in general. It's something that gets old really fast.0