I want anyone who share their opinion to be brutally honest and try to picture this. I'm going to be very detailed about this (and no it's not weird). So, there is this girl I like she is a light-skinned girl, about 5'9' (just like my best friend), she's super skinny but not close to anorexic, she's a cheerleader if I'm sure, she has a lot of friends (most of her friends are my close friends that I hang out if I had no one else to hang out with), she has a dark brown almost black hair, it's short cut, and I assume she's introverted/extroverted. (Rebecca)
I'm a medium weight guy that looks fat from the side, dark skinned, 5'7", I never played a sport because I'm not good at all (and no clubs because you have to be a certain way to join in), I have a few amounts of friends, too much hair on my head (times it's picked out and sometimes not), I be picked on by a large amount of people, always be doubted by everyone with given a chance, very prone to get rejected by any girl, my best friend's wingman, and I'm very introverted.
And my best friend is super skinny like the girl, 5'9", dark skinned, he looks very similar to me, he's plays basketball and do track, he's very speedy, he has muscles (but not buff), he's trying to get with the girl and I am his wingman, he has a few amount of friends (because his friends are mainly popular), and he's introverted/extroverted. (Manny)
Who is going to have a better chance? I'm going to add a poll, but I want an opinion as well. And I'm going to leave names as well, but not full. Just nicknames.
- MeVote A
- MannyVote B
Most Helpful Girl
I'm not gonna give you some politically correct bs, I'll be honest. She's more *likely*to like him, but it is still very possible that she could like you as well.
Kids in high school are more focused on image. They get in relationships with people they're expected to like, and they use these relationships to feed their egos. Yeah you can have a genuine relationship in high school of course, but generally, those relationships are shallow and products of infatuation, or a means to stifle insecurities. Or even just because they think they're "supposed" to be dating because everyone else is.
So if you go through all of high school single, you aren't missing out on much. When you meet someone you sincerely care for, take a leap of faith and tell them how you feel if you're ready, but if not, don't go looking for love. Let it find you.
And another thing you need to know is that she isn't perfect. She may seem perfect but she isn't.
And you are beautiful and amazing in your own ways.0
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Most Helpful Guy
Manny has a better chance.
I've seen your postings for over a year now, and they have one consistent theme. You have zero confidence, and you highlight this in every posting you make.
While a few younger (<17 year old) girls might find your introverted nature endearing, most girls will not. The lack of confidence is a real turnoff to many girls, and it doesn't matter whether you're tall, dark-skinned and handsome. Your personality and lack of focus will drive them away.
You seem to think girls are attracted only to looks. If this were the case, fat ugly obese men would be single their entire lives. Yet, many of them have girlfriends. This should tell you that girls like a man for something more than pure looks.
You need to step up your confidence game to get anywhere with a girl.1