Most Helpful Girl
You can't take one person's experience and expect your child to go through the exact same problem as him. Look, you don't even know if you're even gonna marry this girl or have kids with her... Plus you don't even know what her parents are like, not all Asian parents are the same.
Your kid could struggle in school for various reasons even if he was simply white as well. It's just reality, your kids will go through some kind of hardships eventually, it is inevitable.
BUT, if you're seriously worried about this mic race issue for your child, I'm telling you, mix race is becoming very common. And mix race will be the FUTURE, so by the time your child reaches the age to go to school (assuming you'll have kids in maybe 5-10 years time), the world would be looking hella different from now. There is already a whole lot of Asians moving out of their countries (esp China), right now most stay in their "communities" but, as time goes on in sure they'll start mixing up.
And lastly, schools in the future will be looking different when your child grows up compared to when you went to school, you may not have thought about it but it will. So don't limit your options like that, it's honestly so pointless.
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Most Helpful Guy
Well I can understand why you wouldn't want to do it and it certainly is a valid thing to be concerned about so with that rationale I would say that you are being a reasonable person.. That being said, my girlfriend is Japanese and I am white. Where I live mixed race couples are common and I know several mixed race people that are well adjusted and very dynamic people. I'd suggest to you that because of your awareness and sensitivity this is not actually a problem for you. You aren't getting married, you are going out on a date, but I certainly see and understand your rationale.