It is important to have standards to do you ever stop and compare what you are bringing to a relationship with that of which you expect your partner to bring? I feel most people don't.
Most Helpful Guy
I have often thought about this, and even though I have been married to the same woman now for the past 8 years, I have no illusions about what I bring to the relationship. I feel that a large part of my function in our relationship is closely linked to my personality and behaviors. I am a big stabilizer in our relationship, in that when my wife is raging I remain calm and stable, she knows that even though it might seem as if I don't care about anything, the fact of the matter is I care about a great deal, I just don't always react violently to a given situation (she does that enough for both of us). So when she is doing having her fit or outburst or whatever the case might be, I remain by in large very stable and predictable. Is this easy for me? No, it causes me a good deal of stress and wear, however I endure and carry on. She knows I am always her "safe port" in her storm. Additionally I also offer caring comfort for her afterwords, again this is not always easy for me, but I still do it, and while she doesn't always acknowledge it, she does from time to time note how well we work together and how lucky she is to have me as a stabilizer. :-)0
Most Helpful Girl
I attempt to meet the standards I expect out of my partner.4