However, I've also heard that often times, a guy asking a girl about her past is viewed as a sign that he wants a relationship. So will not asking or caring be interpreted as me only wanting sex?
Most Helpful Girl
I think knowing someone's past isn't a bad thing and normal to want to know. I agree with you about the no judgement but be weary of red flags. If you feel like something is wrong it is probably because there is. I think to look for is the way they speak about their ex's because there is always two sides of the story and that ex doesn't have a chance to defend themselves. Sure some ex's are complete assholes but some are not and the relationship just didn't work out. Another sign is how they try either parents. Also cheating us a huge red flag but if they have been to therapy or councilling then I would consider giving them a chance if not then the odds are eventually they will repeat their actions.
Most Helpful Guy
Girls with a wild past will likely view it as a plus.
Girls who take sex seriously may view it as a red flag, that either you've been wild, or would be.
Maybe that's accurate. Ultimately projecting your views around sex is likely going to attract people with similar views.
You may be in the position I was in at your age, which was that fundamentally, i was open minded about sex, but I was also inexperienced. I ended up dating girls who were much more sexually reserved than I was, and should have done what I needed to to become more attractive to girls who were sexually outgoing.