I did a brave and foolish thing today. I told my boyfriend I'm falling in love with him. We;ve been dating offocially for 4 months and have known each other for almost 7 months. Plenty of time for me to devolop feelings. After I told him my feelings he said "I have a hard time falling in love with anyone.." and that was it. I know he isn't in love with me but I wanted there to be a glimmer of hope for it. I am now really sad and don't know if I want to continue the relationship. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't love me. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
It's unrealistic to think two people will fall in love at the same time. He at least is honest because a lot of guys would just say "I love you too" even if they didn't know if they did or they were just saying it to make you happy. I think you're jumping the gun by wanting to just end it now.7
Most Helpful Girl
First off, not once did you mention him saying that he DOESN'T love you. Saying that you have a hard time falling in love with someone and saying that you don't love someone are two totally different things. I think you got the two confused. I don't think that you should give up just yet, rather you need to give it time. Look, there's a guy right now who really really likes me and has told me. I can't seem to get it through my rock hard stubborn head that this may very well be a great guy and im letting him slip between my fingers because of what happened to me in the past. The past can really screw you up. Maybe, just maybe your boyfriend is going through what I'm going through. He can't open up his heart because he was so hurt yet he may very well be in love with you but afraid to express it. As far as I'm concerned, the feelings with me and this guy are likewise, but like your boyfriend I'm letting the past dictate my present too much. I believe that he does feel the same way, he hasn't come to terms with it because he's afraid of rejection and getting his heart broken.2