And do i show application by doing things like hugging my girlfriend telling her how happy i am to be with her and spend time with her whenever i am with her. Would it also be good to give my hypothetical girlfriend small gifts all the time to show my application.
Does it sound like i have the right idea?
Most Helpful Girl
You don't really have to by her stuff. Some girls, like me, get wet over the slightest display of affection, like a kiss on the cheek or any diliberate skin contact. Communication is nessecary when you are frustrated or angry with one another. You need to talk about the issues in order to develop a plan to solve them. In my opionion, respect and trust are the most important. Without respect, there's no love, and without trust, there's nothing.
Most Helpful Guy
No. Well, yes. It sounds like you got a good understanding of what you've heard, but you heard wrong.
What you're proposing is going to come out forced, and seem insincere. If she needs you to know how her day went, she should tell you (and you should listen). She has the same commitment to communication as you do. You can't make up for an inadequacies on her part by driving the conversation like an interrogation. Same with gifts. If you're giving them because you feel you should show her appreciation, then it's not sincere, but the result of essentially you emotionally blackmailing yourself. Meanwhile, you'll be conditioning her to receiving gifts all the time, "just because."
Whatever it is you decide to do, just be sincere about it. If it's a compliment or a gift (same thing), they need to be sparse, and well-placed.
P. S. It's "appreciation," not "application."