Most Helpful Guy
Let's get something straight here:
Sure, women are totally attracted to a man from his personality a good portion of a time. No one is denying that. You know what breeds SEXUAL attraction though? Looks. Women care about looks sexually (like men) because personality doesn't mean much in determining if your partner can produce healthy offspring. That's why I see girls adoring shirtless, super cut guys all the time. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, men do this with women, but the point is that *looks matter to women too*.
This is why a lot of guys who date or get married to "personality" loving women end up burnt. After a while, she can't enjoy having sex with him since his looks aren't what she wants or sometimes even tolerates, even though that personality was golden. That's why you'll see many guys ask, "Why has she stopped intimacy?" over and over again.
There is no "either/or" with attraction. There are elements of both. You can't have a healthy intimate relationship if one is there but the other isn't. Attraction to only personality and not at all looks is what we call "friends". Attraction to only looks and not personality are what we call "hook-ups". It is not a switch, it's a varying lever. If you're mostly attracted to personality, you're mostly attracted to personality, but looks still matter a fraction, and vise versa.
Most Helpful Girl
I'm a personality woman as well but if I am not attracted to at least one physical trait of theirs then I will not pursue them. Physical attraction is the very last thing I look for but its still there. I dated someone who I found attractive due to his personality but he was not attractive physically at all. His appearance was kind of ugly. Needless to say, it didn't last long. I had no sexual desire because his appearance turned me off.
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