Now before anyone says it, yes, I know I'm jealous and probably over thinking.
A friend and I startedto date right before each of us moved away for school. We said we wanted to try and keep things going. He gave me a lot of crap about how much he respects me and all that.
Well he's away at school and I understand he's busy. But I hardly hear from him. I can get maybe one or two messages from him at a time. He'll text me for as long as it takes me to discuss whats happening on my end but as soon as I ask about him, he doesn't reply. If he does its all very short and it seems like he's just replying to be polite. Although from time to time he does text me first.
Then any time I suggest we get together on a weekend he always says he's got too much homework.
Then I keep seeing on his snapchat story this girl he keeps hanging out with. He takes pictures of her and I can tell they're in his dorm and there is never context, just a picture. Instantly I'm jealous. She's so much prettier and thinner than me and she's actually going to a university ( I am not)
I had my hopes up so high, now I feel like I'm being lead on since he hasn't said anything about our relationship. I know I need to confront him. But I don't know how. I don't want to seem angry (although I kinda am) or clingy.
I've thought about texting him, saying, "should I give up on hoping that anything will continue between us? Just tell me now. I'm not looking to be strung along or be put on the "back burner", been there, done that and its not a good feeling."
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Hmm this is a hard one. One thing I've learned is you don't ask questions with a negative suggestion. I do think you have reason to be upset. you're not over reacting, but you need to be very careful on how you confront him. Keep it polite leave out any accusations. I would maybe ask him how he's been feeling about the relationship. Maybe starting to ask him about his day first will help him elaborate on what's new with him. This girl COULD be just a friend. I do believe a woman knows when it's more than that but until you're told otherwise or have reason to believe you got to keep that jealous bug out of the relationship. However if something he does upsets you or makes you uncomfortable like hanging out with her in his dorm, you do need to tell him. Just let him know how it makes you feel. You can't tell him what to do, it's his choice, but you need to let him know how you honestly feel.0