When I went on a date I was just myself I didn't try to really impress her with any lies. Told her since I got out of the military I've been really lost in college.. I know my major but I just can't really adjust back like that. Dtold her in still really finding myself. Told her my goals and what not and I'm working towards them all but I think 20s are just all about finding yourself and trying everything you can.
- Bad idea. Have sex with her and then let things flow.Vote A
- That's fine. Honesty is more attractive than superficial liesVote B
Most Helpful Girl
A deep conversation like that was what made me fall in love with my fiance. He had been calling me for a few weeks and I was ignoring him. I thought he was just another player, so I had no interest in him. One night, we wound up sitting on the steps of a friend's house and he opened up to me, telling me about some sensitive stuff out of nowhere. I guess he was just feeling stressed that night. I realized then that I had him all wrong and that he was human after all. I started answering his calls then. Now, we're planning our wedding.0
Most Helpful Guy
In my experience it's a bad idea. I've done this before, thinking we were relating to each other, but I feel like it was a big part of why things went wrong. It's a bad idea to tell her anything that might be considered a weakness. There is definitely such a thing as "too much information" before you are officially in a relationship. Bad habits, insecurities, self-doubt or self-loathing, uncertainty in life, complaining, indecision, anything embarrassing or emasculating should be avoided. Too much talk about your feelings should be avoided until after she says it's a relationship. You just can't let your guard down before the relationship is officially established.
It's all about making as good of an impression as possible, and early. From my experience, women are more receptive to men who have a purpose or direction in life.
I don't like that this is true, and I do feel like it's a shame people can't be more open with each other. But it's how most people work.1