This is year 33 of being single. Many to most girls hate me even though I try to be nice to them. I have been treated really badly. What should I do? Please don't say be patient as I have been extreemly patient and am still being extreemly patient and please don't say I will find someone one day because the truth is some people die alone. Please no mean comments, I am looking for helpful advice.
@Paris13 please help.
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Hi, @AppleFan1 One of my Bestie friends on here as far as amazing nic eguys go, thank you so much for asking for my opinion, always glad to help.
As wise as I am, sweetie, I feel tha the Perfect Girl for you, will One day come in a Perfect Package that will be Just Perfect for you in every shape and form and way and you will live happily ever after some day.
I believe sometimes that you feel there is a"Hate" Club of beauties out there who give you the finger, let's put it like this, but in telling you this, on all sides of Respect, I also know that in our own society today, You have to handle Them with kid's gloves in away where things go off without a hitch and you do not feel.. Ditched... This includes Girls who feel this way with guys who treat them in this way as well.
Good luck and never give up... You are still young, my friend, and life has just begun, you have not found the right one as of yet. xxoo1
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These are some things I've observed so far:
The best way to un-single yourself is a mix of self-improvement, patience, and exposure.
Slightly contradictory to what I just kind of said, patience is not something you particularly want. I feel that most people who "die alone" end up like that due to too much patience and often a strong inclination to shyness, maybe social awkwardness or something of that sort. Sometimes it simply they haven't met anyone, but I feel it usually has to do with too much waiting. Very honestly, it isn't your looks that are killing you.
Societal pressures make the guy tend to push guys into making the first move. Very few girls will make the first move, especially since they may make the assumption that you are already taken or something since you are indeed 33. Try to approach more girls.
If you feel the problems in this video (shyness or whatever like me)...
Check out this. It is a useful article on talking to girls:
When I say patience, I don't mean waiting for a girl to come along and make the first move. I mean taking rejection and moving on. Be patient after it. Rejection is hard and stuff, but it shouldn't be something to be afraid of.
Patience also goes with the girls hating you. There are going to be many girls that are either rude, hate you, whatever. You just got to pick yourself up and move on. You only need one good one to make the rest of the bad ones go away :)
I don't know your lifestyle exactly, but it is important to meet girls so you can actually have even the chance of un-singling yourself.
Stereotypical places are things like bars, where people gather and it is easy (well.. easier) to start up conversations.
HOWEVER, with the wonders of modern technology, online dating also works. It is not bad to do online dating. It is a worthwhile use of time to see what can happen. I can guarantee you are not in the same boat. I'm sure there are early-30 women looking for a man. Sure of it.
DON'T GIVE UP HOPE!
One of the worst things you can do to yourself is say "I'm going to die alone." Once you get in that mentality, things will start to go downhill. You'll lose motivation to even try. If you don't try you can't succeed. It also makes you look less confident, and people love confidence (or rather, people dislike lack of confidence).
Good luck! You CAN do it! You will NOT die alone.2