Is it a bad sign if a guy doesn't try to kiss you at the end of the date?

[ChestersVixen]

Just be patient. The guy I'm currently dating (9 months strong) didn't kiss me for our first 3 dates. Our 4th date was a New Years Eve party at my house and I outright told him he could come if I get a kiss at midnight. He showed up, I got my midnight kiss, and we have been together ever since. Turns out he's just a bit old-fashioned and doesn't like to rush things. I've never dated someone who took things as slow, and now I actually really like it, as things happen in our relationship they feel so much more genuine because they weren't rushed.

Your guy could just be similar, not wanting to rush things. Some guys take it slower when they REALLY like a girl and see a serious potential. He could also be shy. Just be patient and give him some time. Enjoy the ride (:

[MadameJulietta]

Duh, not necessarily. It could be that he wasn't sure of your interest, or is hesitant about initiating kissing for some other reason.

I'd give it one more date. You could kiss him and see how he responds. Or you could wait and see how he plays it, and if he doesn't kiss you, ask why. It doesn't have to be a big dramatic thing. You could simply say;

"Hey, I've had a nice time with you, but you haven't kissed me and I'm not sure what that means. I'm old-fashioned and I like the guy to initiate the first kiss." If he's not feeling attracted to you, he should let you know and you can move on; if there's some other reason, you'll learn something about him.

Good luck.

[Darkfairie17]

It's not a bad sign at all. He was probably trying to be respectful. Everyone is different and for some girls it might be too much too fast if a guy tries to kiss them after the first date. So he was probably trying to be respectful towards you.

I would flirt with him a little. Tell him you were disappointed and that you were looking forward to the kiss. He will then make sure he kisses you on the second date :)

My boyfriend waited 7 dates before he kissed me. But it was super special when it did happen :)

[RedRain]

Maybe he was just shy and didn't want you to think that he just wanted something sexual?
If he wants to see you again and asks you out again I don't think there's nothing to worry about :)

[FatherJack]

It's not a bad sign at all , at least he respects you & your boundaries. Two main points here , 1st is that men are always demonized by " society " as potential rapists & sex crazed morons , male sexuality is viewed with disgust , hence women often use adjectives such as " rapey, creepy " & worse to describe men. 2nd , men cannot read any typically subtle " Go Ahead " signals , unless trained to do so , or have lots of experience with women. I would not even make one small touch on a first date... if I was dating.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some girls expect a kiss on a first date and some girls get offended if a guy tries to kiss her on the first date. A guy never knows how to handle that and some guys can't ready your subtle hints very well. Give him another chance.

[Jay-Are]

NO, not at all. HE maybe to scared too try and kiss you and you reject him. He may think that you rejecting will lead to never seeing you again.
This is just one possibility but there are many more.

Next time try to be more physical. Grab his hand for example so that he feels that you like being touched. Or better yet kiss him.

[godfatherfan]

1) why didn't you kiss him? that is an awesome moment when she takes the initiative.
2) was is a first date? this thing about having dates with friends I just don't get. But I guess that is how dates go with you kids. that makes a difference. Since I was forced into dating again by an unwanted divorce, I have gone out with 13 women. I have never kissed one of them on the 1st date. A few not until the 3rd. It is awkward and the guy has the burden of not looking like he is just after sex.

[slatyb]

It doesn't mean anything except that he's inexperienced and he's too nervous and self-conscious to read your obvious body language. Basically he hasn't been dating enough to read the signs and know what you want. I was the same at 18. If you like him and don't mind training him a bit then just kiss him yourself.

[serious]

No, it's not a bad sign. I know you are disappointed but then it's not advisable to kiss on the first date, maybe he didn't understand your signs, or it's possible he understood but didn't do it, because he didn't want to seem desperate or make you uncomfortable. He might have thought you are trying to test him and so he wanted to pass the test, he decided to play it safe..

[farscryer0]

No. I don't often kiss on the first date, but if I really enjoyed my night with someone, I'll make sure that they know it.

[AidenBlue]

Maybe he was afraid of getting shut down or being to forward and scaring you off. If he wants to see you again he probably wants a kiss. Don't let him leave without one next time.

Or start the next date with one.

'Oh hey you forgot something last time'. Put your hand behind his neck and guide him too you. Likely to start the date on a high note.

[bloodmountain1990]

I don't know, from a guys standpoint it's all about if it feels right or not and the girl's body language. The girl has to be going in for the kiss as well. I've had times where I'd try kissing or actually do it and the girl would think I'm being overly physical and get the impression that all I wanted is sex. It's different for everyone though. Not a black and white thing. Sometimes it'll be a simple kiss and sometimes it'll be making out.

[madhatters4]

not necessarily a bad sign. I had a general rule when dating that i didn't kiss on the first date. I didn't want my mind to be clouded by the romantic intimacy i wanted to remain clear headed about my feelings in a non-physical way.

but it definitely didn't mean i didn't like the girl

[chrisbigman]

I wouldn't exactly say it's a bad sign. He may not have realized you wanted to kiss him. I probably wouldn't know myself, unless I was paying enough attention to her body/facial language. It doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. He just isn't quite quick enough in this department.

[Anonymous]

LOL! I have NEVER kissed a girl on the first date - I would never consider taking that risk of blowing things up by acting too soon. I have never had sex with a girl until date 6 or two months - two thirds of the women I've dated I did not have sex with. By design. I had sex with my current girlfriend for the first time after we had known each other about a year. Some men are like me.

[Anonymous]

No not at all, he is probably just being polite. I dont like forcing women into kissing me, so I dont. Unless we have been going out for a while, or she straight up tells me she wants me to kiss her, then I just hug her good bye and tell her to have a good night. That doesn't mean I dont like her, it just means I am respecting her boundaries.

[unkissme]

It's not a bad sign at all... it means he is respectful and a gentleman because he's not assuming first date = first kiss. My first date with an incredible guy didn't end with a kiss and later we both laughed about how each of us had wanted to kiss each other but both of us didn't. And besides you say he wants to see you again... that's a great sign that round two will end the way you were hoping the first would have.

[bryon]

And this is date # ? If it's a first date then it's completely understandable that he didn't move in for a kiss. If it were the second date it would be a cause for wonder why there wasn't at least a peck , maybe not a drawn out kiss. But the third date he has no excuse to not give you a kiss

[Mikaychay95]

I'm so glad you asked this question because I was going to practically ask the same thing! He said he wanted to see me again and hugged me a couple times but never kissed me. Also it was just the two of us and no one else and it was the first date.

[LJHam]

It depends on how many times you've gone out. If this was your first date, then don't be concerned. Maybe he's an actual gentleman. But after a few dates, then this guy is just a friend, and you haven't really been on dates.

[front2back]

Even kissing is important to some people, so much that even after a first date they don't kiss because they don't know you well enough yet. They only want to kiss when they feel they romantically like you enough.

Don't be disappointed, it probably means he takes women and relationships in general seriously.

[Beach_lover88]

Not at all, I've been on quite a few first dates (mostly from online dating haha) and the vast majority of the time the guys don't try to kiss me at the end but they still end up calling/texting me for another date. My ex boyfriend didn't try to kiss me for 4-5 dates! He (and I) were physically shy and he didn't want to move too fast. But we still ended up dating for almost 2 years

[WeaponZero]

It takes more time than what a single date allows for to become comfortable enough with a person to try for any form of physical intimacy, missing included.

[simplySillyMEE123]

No, when we first started going out together, my boyfriend was really shy and didn't kiss me until our 6th or 7th date, and even then he asked if it was ok.

[Frost_Byt3]

It turns me off, because I'm not into that type of girl. It'd make me wonder "If i were to ever be in a relationship with her, i wonder how many other guys' bulges she would stare at".