- I feel desperate sometimes
- I feel creepy sometimes
- I always feel desperate
- I always feel creepy
- I feel just fine, no issues
- I never approach because I fear being creepy
- other (explain below)
GUYS: do you ever feel desperate, creepy, or like a weirdo when approaching women/girls?
What Guys Said 31
It's kind of weird. I don't feel desperate but it can feel a little creepy. Because let's be honest here. If some random guy walks up to some random girl and starts a conversation with the goal of asking her out or getting her number, the implication is clear: "Hey I think you're attractive and I'd like to have sex with you eventually, how about it?"
It's really hard because you put yourself out there. I almost never would approach a woman in a group keep that in mind if you're ever out with your friends and you see the guy you like he's not going to approach you. Usually there are some girl in the group who is in a man hater mode and will say some crappy things to a guy when he does approach you trust me I've seen it happen. My recommendation if you're in a group approached the guy because he will not approach you in a group and if he does approach you in a group I would question his motives.
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I avoid making a move when it seems like the girl is more interested in someone else or has a boyfriend.
Even tho things seem to change quickly, I just saw one friend kissing another girl and the girl who I was with saw it and went out right after (one girl I have feelings for) so I guess I am not even in the running.
I feel like diluted creep/desperate/douch. I find it fascinating how I can speak to anybody and be cool until I know I'm going to get a number, then my verbal diarrhoea becomes verbal constipation. I feel like if I approach, she knows I'm going for her and I think that I'm bothering her. Like I should grab a ticket and wait in line for the other guys who have approached her.
I've never had a problem approaching women. I've always been pretty good at reading the little "tell tale" signs that women give off in their body language which basically gives you permission to approach them.
Nevertheless, I HAVE been rejected... many times. But none of the girls did it in a manner that was disrespectful or hurtful. Some of them even thanked me... "Oh thanks! You've totally made my week - but I have a boyfriend!"
Men have to learn to take rejection. Part of becoming a man is learning that failure happens from time to time. You don't take it personally... you pick up and move to the next girl... and there is always a "next" girl.
Hoes be tripping. Every girl i talk to think i wanna smash. You ain't even on my radar! Get over yourself...
I feel weird with one girl because she might think I'm weird because I'm trying to get to know her. The other person is my neighbor, and I feel like I want to fuck her, a lot.
More of a fear of being rejected not a creep, I have never been called a creep before.
I feel like I'll just get a "fuck off" and it'll be super embarrassing and I'll run into them again somewhere else and they'll laugh and point. I've never approached a women
I don't approach women. What I mean is, I don't hit on them. I talk to them as a "normal human being."
I only approach desperate, creepy and weirdo women.
So i feel normal by comparison.
It's a gamble. Some girls definitely make sure for you to feel that way when you approach them, sucks when it happens.
Meh, I'm good at doing it now but I wasn't always. I think it's perfectly valid for other men to feel uncomfortable about the fact society puts pressure on them to 'be a man' and approach.
Yeah, women that are complaining about being labeled a 'slut' (I mean, who actually does that?) or desperate aren't really voicing concerns that are exclusive to one gender. A guy can get labelled a creep AND he can get into legal trouble if he is too aggressive / persistent when he makes an approach.
It's rare that that happens but it's still perfectly possible. More sympathy is required for the man's perspective.
Of course we do. It's why we ask women to appreciate the first step.
I feel like women already think I'm a creep or a weirdo without approaching them anyway.
I think it's all about confidence. Woman like that, so that's the approach I take
Anxious is what I feel.
I'm not a creep, so no.
Of course guys do feel like that.
Except in practice it's very difficult for females to look "creepy" or "desperate," it's mostly in their heads. Whereas for guys their fears are actually justified to some extent, we see girls calling guys creepy all the time. It really looks like we can be totally sincere and nice but if it's not awesome then it's awkward, and if it's awkward then it's creepy, then oh fuck somehow we've gone from friendly to creepy through no real fault.
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What Girls Said 3
Yeah I guess it's unfair that some guys are considered creepy for asking girls out.. even though they're expected to do it
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