So the reason I am asking this is because there is a new girl at school, I was the first guy to try and get to know her. She showed interest, until a guy who thought she was cute asked her out. I like her personality and looks (she's awesome, into photagraphy and drawing, not too nice but not mean). Today her friend tried to get her to sit next to me, and of course it was a no. Her now boyfriend was my friend, and used the fact that I play baseball to put me down. Another question, why in the world do girls seem like they like that? I'm a shy guy who was finally tring to "make a move", and this shit happens. She even has a cousin who has been here all 3 years of MS WHO KNOWS I'M SHY. She was one of the reasons I even went for it. So girls please tell me why you let this shit happen to us shy people? In my part I at least tried to stake my claim. I don't think ANYONE likes me now. I am just a 13 year old who plays video games, plays a little baseball, is way to skinny (and too tall for how skinny I am), and is SHY. Do I stand a chance girls, none of you seem to like baseball players. And guys, why do you do this shit to shy people? In this instance this guy, used that I'm shy, against me. Sure you like her, maybe you know her a bit, but if a shy person is finally putting forth an effort, don't fucking ruin him. This has happened to me, my friend Alex, and a few other friends of mine. Everytime we just sit there, depressed, and contemplate life. I've seen the other guys, either they don't care or they are crying. And we just sit down, and eat ourselves away. Give us a chance.
Most Helpful Girl
I find shy guys tend not to be open about how they feel. I never know if they are attracted to me or not. They leave me feeling confused and full of doubt about their intentions , due to not disclosing their true feelings. I need to know where i stand with a guy, but i never know with a shy guy.3
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Most Helpful Guy
Girls like confidence more than anything else. Shyness shows a lack of confidence so is a huge turn off. Dating is a competition and is never fair. It's a competition with few rules. The guy who gets and keeps the girl wins, there's no 2nd place ribbon. Sometimes that means hitting the competition where it hurts. There's no giving people who don't understand this a chance.
Understand you are trying to win a competition, a competition where shyness means you lose, so overcome that shyness rather than accepting it, and you'll eventually win. Continue being shy and you'll always get beaten by the first confident guy who comes along. That's just how it works.0