I've been on 5 dates with a guy. I found out we have similar interests such as reading, writing, sketching. He's a self proclaimed nerd. It was appealing to me & it still is.
At 28, he's never had a girlfriend & seems his sexual experience has been limited to one night stands. He even confessed that he has thought of going to prostitutes on several occasions. I don't judge him for this.
On Halloween he asked me to pick him up. Long story. He's in the military. His license/registration was suspended so for a year he can't drive on base but he can drive anywhere off base. I picked him up & we went to a drive in. He acted like he owned the car. Cracked the window open, put his leg out. Deep inside that made me mad but I didn't say anything. I don't expect for a guy to pick me up but I don't enjoy picking up a date especially when he acts like this.
Yesterday, he asked me to pick him up again since his friend didn't want to drive him to pick up his car outside the gate. I said no. He finally got his car and we met up. The date was fun until we ate. I ordered fries & a milkshake & he ordered his stuff. He grabbed my fries & started eating them. He also grabbed my milkshake and took long sips. I said I wasn't hungry and let him eat it. It was rude & disgusting.
He also has bad breath. I've offered him mints & he never wants to take them. I don't know any other way to tell him his breath stinks.
A few other strange things that he had told me are as follows:
1. He keeps his receipts in case he's ever tied to a crime he'll have an alibi.
2. He's told me that it would be easy to dispose of a body in the ocean.
3. I've seen a movie poster on his FB that says something to the effect of, "Even if she doesn't consent, it is still sex."
Aside from that we have good conversations. We have yet to have sex. We've kissed but I pull away because of his breath. He told me that we wouldn't have sex till I was ready.
Should I move on or actually talk to him about these issues?
Most Helpful Guy
That solely depends on you. If you wan't to try to make things work with him you can straight talk to him. He might not know you think he's rude and all these things offend you. If you open up and he makes an effort to change then he's concerned with you happiness. If he gets offended and doesn't want to hear it then just drop it. That's what Dates are for, to determine if there's a chance at relationship. Weather the person fit's your type or not. Sounds like he doesn't fit your bill though, and might have some boundary characteristics that you don't like. Since it's early on (only five dates) if you really don't care much for him then end the dates and don't feel guilty. Remember the saying "Don't fall in love with potential".0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
No. Too many red flags and too many things to try to get him to change, which he probably wouldn't... This guy isn't worth it, I think you'd just be wasting your time and you'll find someone way better.6THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE