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Since HIV has a 3 month incubation, that means 3 months no unprotected sex with anyone (your wife included) until you get an OK result.
Would you still give that advice if they have children? If you would, then you obviously don't have any one that you're close to that's been through their parents getting divorced.
@CheerGirl38139 - I DO know people who are close to their parents who have been through a divorce.I would MUCH rather my parents get a divorce than have one get a free pass for being a scumbag who deserves to rot in hell.
WTF with the down vote? I just wanted some context first. Damn. Fucking prudes on here. SMH
It doesn't matter why he did it. There's never an excuse to cheat.
@ThisDudeHere I wasn't insinuating that there's an excuse bruh, just wanted more info before I chimed in as to what advice I'd give going forward (which is what the dude asked for) .. for fuck's sake WTF is it with people on here reading between lines that aren't there... SMDH.
You either fix the problems in a relationship or you leave. You don't cheat. There isn't anything more to be said here.
@ThisDudeHere Geezus dude... THAT WAS MY POINT... how do you give the dude advice as to how it MIGHT POSSIBLY be fixed if you don't know the catalyst for his infidelity in the first place? There's not a one size fits all answer to these problems. Phuck...
He already did the deed so there's nothing to fix here. You're supposed to fix things in a relationship before you brake them.
@ThisDudeHere OMG yeah... let me know when you grow up and join the rest of us IN REAL LIFE. I have no idea how you are a moderator on this site. You have an unrealistic view of how things really work. They might have children who's lives would be even MORE fucked if their parents get a divorce. FFS dude, seriously. It isn't always JUST about the person who was cheated on. That's what I meant when I said there's not a one size fits all answer to these situations. But... you are one of those myopic people that believe that way. Sad.
He didn't mention any kids anywhere. Besides why would a kid need a role model like that?
@ThisDudeHere OMG. Have a nice day man. You seriously do NOT understand real life and relationships, or know anyone who's a decent person that's made a very bad mistake. Thank God there are people in this world willing to give people a second chance for a higher purpose. The fact that a man (or woman) screws up and does something stupid, does NOT mean that their children don't need them in their lives. What a stupid fucking comment to make about role models. Do you REALLY think a teenage boy or girl is betting off WITHOUT one of their parents around, just because that parent made a mistake in their relationship years prior? If you really believe that, you are either woefully naive, or simply delusional.
Wow @Prettygurl12 you blocked me for disagreeing with you? Damn we have some immature babies on this site as moderators. No. You THINK that. But your parents are NOT divorced. It's not that simple. And if one of them screwed up, I have news for you... they are still your parents... and you will love and ned both of them no matter how they've screwed up... short of being a murderer, rapist, or something heinous of that nature. Don't pretend that you know, because you don't. Children NEED both of their parents in their life. Sometimes divorce is the only choice, but I believe it should be the LAST choice.
Cheating is not a mistake. It's a string of consciously made decisions. If I get in a car and drive from city A to city B I could accidentally crash in a tree on my way there. That would indeed be a mistake. But I can't by mistake get in my car, by mistake start it up, by mistake drive the entire way there and then get out and be all like ''woah... how did I get here? Ohh I get it... I must have gotten here by mistske... yea... that's totally it.''No. Cheating reflects on you as a person and it is not a mistake. You can't sccidentally hop on someone's dick and then say ''oops. huess I made a mistake.''
@ThisDudeHere OK dude, let's argue semantics now... let's say you're right, it's a POOR CHOICE rather than a mistake. Ever made one? If so, and you had a son or daughter, would it be a GOOD thing that you were not around to see them grow up, or direct them on their life path, AFTER you recognize that you had made ONE poor choice and were able to redirect your own path in a proper direction?Come on people... geez.
We all make poore choices, sure, but if you fuck up on a scsle such as this you deserve the bad karma comming your way. I for one am certain I wouldn't.
@ThisDudeHere OK man. I defer to my original reply to your comment. There are some VERY immature 20_somethings here on GaG that are unrealistic about how the real word works and how these things effect real families. Have a nice day. :)
Whatever. Have a nice day too.
@ThisDudeHere I will. Hope YOUR future kids never have to be on the receiving end of bad karma for a poor choice that you make one day. I would hate to think a teenage girl had to grow up without a father because of a poor choice he made in his marriage when she was an infant.
I would never make said choice. I consider cheating to be pathetic, unexcuseable and unmanly. And as you can tell I'm pretty stubborn.
@ThisDudeHere yes. stubborn and unrealistic. However, I am glad that you feel that way about infidelity in general. I agree that it's a terribly poor choice. I just don't agree that it's always only ONE person that creates the problem... and certainly it's never only one that pays the consequences.
I agree problems in a relationship are never one or the other's fault but the moment you cheat is the moment you take blame. You either fix it beforehand or leave.I just have a 0 tolerance policy.
@ThisDudeHere I think we are finally on a similar page, and we don't know if the @Asker has kids or not. My only concerns were since he already made the poor decision, what (if any) are the other factors before giving him advice. Peace.
... you can't just do that...
Of course you can lol, why on Earth not. Oh, because it's not "ethical", grow up.
... er no because you can't divorce without reason. It just doesn't work like that...