My boyfriend and i have been dating for 8 months now and he has this female friend that lives about ten minutes away from home.. he lives about 20 minutes away from me. Well they have been friends for 6 years and she is always asking him for rides because she doesn't have a license and she deosnt work or go to school or do anything productive with her life really. Well at first i didn't say anything about it because i thought once she saw that we are in a committes serious relationship that she would stop with the calling him and texting him almost every day and asking him for rides almost every weekend you know back off a little bit out of respect for our relationship. Well that hasn't happened yet. Well what really got me was on Saturday my boyfriend her and i went bowling together. He picked her up first which is not my issue at all because he lives closer to her but my issue is that when he got to my house she didn't get in the back to let me sit in the front. Like hello im his girlfriend im pretty sure a guys girl gets dibs on the front seat unless its like someone from an older generation like his mom or something. Whenever i have been in the front seat i always give it up and get in the back for a friends boyfriend or girlfriend. Whenever the 3 of us hangout and we are headed back to the car she always goes in the front. My mom even said to me the one day umm i know i didn't just see you get in the backseat and let another women in the front seat. In certain ways i feel like im sharing my boyfriend with this other way. Yes i know guys and girls can just be friends but this is beyond that. And i would never treat a guy who is just a friend like that. And when they had gfs i always made sure i got to know them and i respected their relationship and understood that their relationship came first. So my question is how do i word to my boyfriend that it really bothers me that he acts totally ok with this other girl get the front seat and that i feel like i am sharing my boyfriend in a sense.
Most Helpful Guy
Just tell him that it bothers you that she is not respecting your relationship. And also I think she might have some feelings for him and maybe trying to sabotage by doing little things like that. Has anything ever happened between them?0
Most Helpful Girl
Ah I can see wha you mean. You can honestly say that sometimes You feel as if you're sharing him, you're happy that he has a good female friend, but you're not supposed to feel second place. She may be feeling like all his time is not focused on her anymore, and that now that he has a girlfriend she just wants to prove her spot as the best female friend. It's rude though she doesn't seem to get it, and it can be hard for her. You should also say that he's not her chauffeur and she can ask other people for rides. Or take the damn bus0