My birthday is coming up and I was pretty sure my boyfriend forgot. I didn't want to just take my chances and risk having nothing to do on my birthday. So trying to decide if I should spend it with him or my girl friend who has a birthday right before mine I texted him to see if he was going to be around on X date or should I make other plans?
He was basically like whatever don't let me get in the way of your plans which came off a little snarky. He eventually realised it was my birthday and apologized saying yeah let's do something I have plabs but can cancel them.
To which I asked what plans? He has a dinner party with friends. This is when I begin to get really upset because I don't understand why he didn't invite me to come along with him.
we've been dating for 6 months I've met several of his friends and always get along with them but I still usually only see him for one weekend night (I do see him during the week).
Before re now I just figured he was doing something with the guys or noncouples. So when I find out he has plans to something that he totally could have invited me to it really hurt me. He said he just found out but this is something they do every year so I doubt it.
Am I overreacting? Sometimes I feel like I'm just a filler.
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't get too angry over it. Sometimes, guys just want times with guys, and that goes for girls too. Because my girlfriend and I are very busy, we only see each other every other week if we're lucky, and when we do, I always offer to bring her friends (I'm close to her friends as well) too, cause I understand she barely has time to see them much less me. He canceled his plans for you, so I wouldn't be too upset about it. I'm sure there's been instances where you just wanted time with JUST your friends too, and that should be understandeable from both parties of a relationship.
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Most Helpful Girl
I feel like you have a right to be a little hurt. If I was with a guy and he was planning on going to a dinner party (which I would love to go to btw!) I would be kinda bummed I didn't get an invite.
I would probably also think he wasn't that serious about me. But you two have only been together for 6 months. That's not a whole lot of time and maybe he truly forgot about your bday. That sucks, but it could be that he didn't invite you because he might have some unsavory friends there. Maybe he thinks you will think differently of him for these friends.
We all have those types of friends. The one's we kind of cringe when we think of introducing them to our SO's. They may not be bad people. But they just bring out things in us that we would rather forget. Wild nights, too many drinks, or who knows maybe they will talk about his old flings?
If I were you, I would talk to your boyfriend. Let him know you are kind of bummed he didn't invite you. But try to be okay if he doesn't take you. Don't make him feel obligated, because he's not.
Both people in a relationship should have things outside the relationship which are important to them. You have a really great idea by going out with your friend who has a birthday around the same time as you.
Hopefully your boyfriend isn't cold and clueless and will do something nice for you to celebrate your birthday. Even a nice text message or take a night out during hte week to celebrate with you.