My boyfriend was a dream guy. He was everything I ever wanted. We were together for 9 months. We never had serious fights. We planned on a future together. He preached about me for 9 months. He has 2 boys, 13 and 16. I met his parents, his kids and his friends. I had a key to his house. He had 50% custody of his kids. Every other week when he did not have his kids, he stayed with me. The weeks he had his kids he visited me at least 3 times a week. We were so perfect for each other. My boy friend, out of a blue, two weeks ago he broker up with me. He told me he tried to love my child but he hasn't fallen in love with her yet and he wasn't sure if that will happen. She loved him unconditionally. He said I can't say you can find someone who loves you more than I do but you need to find someone who loves you and your child. He has been gone for two weeks now. How can you so in love with someone and do that? He texted me back last week and he said he knows it is hard decision but it is a good decision for everyone, He said he won't be dating a women with a child and that isn't what he wants for his future. He said I know I hurted you but you have God and in time your heart will heal. How can I be the love of his life, the women he wanted a future over 2 weeks ago to 'a women with a child and not what he wants for his future? I know he has anxiety issue. Is this some kind of anxiety? I haven't talked to him for over a week and the suspense is killing me. How can this be real? Will he snap out of this? The last 9 months we praised God every day and every minute for finding each other. We had so much in common and so much fun together. I know he is the only one who can explain this but I am wondering if this was ever happened to any of you and I really appreciate support.
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I don't think it's anxiety. I think it's fear. Of what I don't know.
What I will say though is it's a crap excuse. I'm sorry, but being BRUTALLY honest, how many people love their spouses children from other people unconditionally? I'm not saying you don't love them, but there is a huge difference between loving a child and loving your child. It sounds like he is expecting to feel the love he has from his own and that's just wrong.2