The only thing he's more firm on is not allowing me to pay, unless I really insist. I remember on our first date he just directly handed the waiter his card and didn't even give me a chance to offer. Which made me melt, but I wish he was that decisive on other things.
Point is, I want to make sure we're doing things he wants to do too, and get him to volunteer that information more easily. Right now it's a bit like pulling teeth.