we girls are supposed to be succesful, independent, have a life and not focus on our guy. But what if we precisely want that? What if that makes us happy? (to be a housewife and mother mainly)
we are told that we are boring and a turn-off if our live only resolves around our boyfriend, husband? (excluding friends). is it wrong to want that?
I do have a "career", I even have Master's degree, but it's actually not the thing I want...
I want work, of course, but primarily I want a family and kids, and work would be my second choice...
I studied, cause I like studying, but it's kind of my plan B if I never get married. That why, I will at least be able to finance myself and live alone (even though I don't want this).
Are there guy who still want those kind of girls, or do you rather prefer the career, independent girl? In my country, it seems, if you are too focused on your guy, you are needy etc. But what if that is the thing that makes you happy the most? Why has it become wrong to prioritize one's relationship over one's career or the so-called "life" (work, friends, party, going out, hobbies...).
Would be interesting to hear more about it.
Most Helpful Guy
Speaking for myself, If I ever get remarried it will be to the type of woman you describe. I am getting older and want a family of my own as my main priority now. I would prefer for my wife to work part time, so she can be there for the kids but still offer a little help on the bills since I am not a rich guy. I can't imagine that I am the only guy that would be okay with the setup you seem to want.
"we girls are supposed to be succesful, independent, have a life and not focus on our guy." Also I think there needs to be a lot of balance added to this statement. A guy shouldn't be your whole world, but it seems like neglecting guys is being taught to women now as oppose to properly finding the right balance. I think working part time, and then pitching it a little more at home could be the right balance for a lot of people.3
Most Helpful Girl
No, do whatever makes you happy- as long as it is truly what you want. Personally, I would love to be a housewife/wife/mother but I also know that I want to be financially independent... so that just in case I end up with a bad guy, I can support my kids and not have to worry about them not getting what they need. You would be surprised by how much financial independence helps people feel in control and powerful. I would never want to feel like I couldn't survive without my husband. That, to me, isn't a healthy relationship.0