This past Sunday, I went on a lunch date with a guy from match.com. We ate and filled the time with small talk. We were there for 2 hours max. He was blushing and talking quietly the whole time. His body language said he was interested (ie, leaning/turning towards me as we talked). He asked what I was doing for the rest of the day, but I had plans made for that afternoon.
When we left, we both parted to walk separate ways. I said that I had a good time. He stopped me and asked if we could get together again. I said absolutely yes. We talked about when we could meet again, but we both had plans for the next week. He gave me a hug and said we would figure it out. It was awkward and cute and the people eating outside were laughing.
I texted him later and told him I had a good time and thank you for lunch. He said he was looking forward to meeting again and that he would "text or IM" me later.
He texted me all the next day and I texted him some the day after that.
Well it's 3 days since the first time we met and no text or phone call. How should I interpret this?
I didn't get a good night text from him last night so I decided to mirror that and not text today lol. I know I'm trying to play it cool, but what is he doing?
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Those first couple of dates are really hard to gauge how well things are going. I really just have not had a guy tell me "Sorry, but I don't want to see you" or "Our date wasn't that great for me.". I think most people want to be polite and if the date was just okay for them, they are not going to really let you know.
In this case I think he had a nice time but as he has time to think, he just isn't feeling it. It isn't your fault and there is nothing that reflects on you. It could be all sorts of things, but in the end a guy who is feeling it would have already scheduled the next date.
I wouldn't give up all hope because, as I said, initial dates can be hard to gauge as far as interest. I went on several dates with a guy and by the third one I thought he was not feeling it either. When he did contact me for the next date I told him nicely that I was surprised to hear from him and that it seemed like we were more like friends, not a romantic couple. He ended up telling me that was a weakness of his, not showing how he really felt about a woman, but that he thought I was a real catch and he had been nervous in trying to make sure not to mess up with me. I told him he needed to relax on that or we wouldn't stand a chance. He's my boyfriend now. So, you never know.0