Apart from work, I rarely leave the house. If I went to a party or a bar/club, I wouldn't talk to people I didn't know and I would want to leave 5 minutes after I showed up. I feel very uncomfortable in social settings especially with alcohol as I don't drink.
I'm very shy, guarded and reserved. I always have been. I can go days without taking to anybody. To make matters worse I stutter when I get nervous which makes me feel insecure. I've seen speech pathologists about it but things have not improved. . I have attempted to ask girls on dates in the past but I've been rejected that much that I don't see the point in putting myself out there anymore, I have a heard time dealing with rejection and I just don't want to get through it again.
I've been on only one date in my entire life and it was terrible. I tried online dating and organized a date with this girl around my age. We went out to dinner, I got really nervous and uncomfortable and halfway through the night she left me to go dancing with a few friends, telling me I was "too shy" for her.
Anyway, I just wanted to ask, what do you think of a guy like me? Am I a loser? Should I give up? Is there hope? Any advice?
Thanks for listening.
Most Helpful Girl
You're absolutely not a loser, and don't give up. From the sounds of you I wouldn't even bother trying to meet anyone at a party or bar/club because they don't sound like you at all, and usually people want to meet someone with common interests or similarities. What are your interests? I would suggest joining clubs or going to places where people are into the things you're into. Not only will it feel more natural but you'll probably end up with some cool new friends even if nothing turns out in the romantic side of things. I believe there is someone out there for everyone, you just haven't found her yet. She will come :)
Most Helpful Guy
I feel for you brother... I was 24 when I experienced my first pu$$y.. with a prostitute! very late bloomer.. I couldn't talk to girls, at all.. what I did was I went to strip clubs and practiced my social skills with them (prostitutes)... the moment I gained confidence talking to them, and being with them in bed, I immediately applied it to the outside world... voila, it was like a hidden switch that was turned on
By 25, I already banged 7 women in a span of a year (non prostitutes) it takes a little bit of practice dude... don't despair, it'll come, no pun intended