I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and we ve been dating for about 7 months. I guess I'm traditional, but I still am ok with spending money on him or paying separately. The problem is that I do it for him, and he doesn't do it for me.
Yesterday we went to dinner and a movie, and we payed separately for tickets. Then for dinner I ordered something cheap and he ordered something big (and he gets mad at me for not eating a lot but what am I supposed to do if he makes it awkward...) When the check came he picked it up and made a face. So I said I'll pay; it was about $25. I'm good with doing this, but he never ever does that for me and I always do this. He has payed for my movie ticket once. And when he did he gave me guilt. Even on the first date he didn't pay for me.
I'm also upset because I know he has the money. He told me today that he bought something for himself when last night he spent nothing on me... he doesn't have a lot of money though. But then I feel like he just can't ask me out all the time.
It makes me feel like I'm not worth spending on, or just that I'm not special :( I don t mean to be superficial but it just bothers me. In every other way he's amazing. It's not like he pays for absolutely nothing; he does buy me little things, like sweets and collectibles. And he does other cute things like love letters. But it's so frustrating.
Should I bring it up and if so how? What do I do?
Thank you in advance!
Most Helpful Guy
If you are both earning and you both have money, you both should pay your way, regardless of gender. If you want to treat each other, do out from your heart, and expect nothing in return.
If your boyfriend is getting mad at you, because you are not paying for his stuff, tell him to pay for his own stuff. Don't let him make you feel bad about it. Just cause you two are dating/relationship doesn't mean you owe each other anything.
What you do with your money is your business, and what he does with his money is his business. neither of you should be telling how to spend each others money.
Most Helpful Girl
in my opinion you two should be splitting the bill, unless one makes significantly more money than the other.
But from the looks of it he does buy you gifts and such. Just make sure you aren't being too demanding. Remember, this is the 21st century. Men and women are equal. You shouldn't expect him to pay for your stuff just because he's a man (and he shouldn't expect you to pay for all of his stuff either, of course).
If he makes a lot more money than you do, then it's time to talk to him about splitting the bill more.