My boyfriend is notorious for going through these "depression" phases. That's what he calls it. The way I see it is that he just gets super lazy and does nothing but smoke lots of pot, eat all the food in the house and binges on video games. During these time periods he will not shower or brush his teeth. He will simply put on different clothes and spray himself with cologne (on a good day). As of right now, I shit you not, its going on two weeks since he has bathed or brushed his teeth. I'm disgusted and repulsed by him.
When he's not going through these phases he is a germaphobe. Constantly showering and making sure that he is in no way dirty whatsoever. I truly don't understand. He will get in these phases about once every three to four months or so.
I feel bad because I am literally repulsed by him right now. His feet are black, his hair is greasy, he has more dirt under his nails than there is in our yard and his breath reaks of month old garlic. I don't want him touching me and I can't even stomach to kiss him without the urge to throw up.
How can I suggest he bathes himself? I have asked him to jump in the shower with me in hopes that that will "trick" him into it but that didn't work because he was stoned and hadn't beat his level yet.
Most Helpful Guy
I really wouldn't worry about hurting his feelings just tell him for his own good. That is disgusting hygiene he needs to be told4
Most Helpful Girl
Since he's a germaphobe most of the time and this nasty hygiene behavior is out of his usual character, he probably does have some form of depression or other issue he's going through. However, that doesn't mean you have to deal with something that grosses you out, or pretend like there's nothing wrong. I think the most important and helpful thing here would be for him to go see a councilor or therapist of some kind, and deal with whatever underlying issues he has. Other than that, though, I think the best thing for you to do is confront him, in a kind but honest way, and tell him how his behavior is affecting you and ask him directly to change it.1